Love and Special Relationships
OUR SPECIAL RELATIONSHIPS form the veil of fantasies behind which the truth of our holy relationship with God is hidden.
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The ego's love is based on guilt and sacrifice. When I get what I want from you; that is love. When you get what you want from me; that is love. When our "needs" dovetail that is the ego's version of the marriage made in heaven. The ego's way of demonstrating love is through sacrifice. We hope that through sacrifice we will atone for our sin and guilt over our selfish desire for special love. To the ego, love is always exclusive. To the Holy Spirit, love is always inclusive.
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You chose against the wholeness and love of God by declaring your own separate existence. You rejected your true magnitude and power by denying your Identity with Him. Believing you have split off from God has left you feeling selfish, sinful, guilty, incomplete and lonely. So you make a world, fill it with people onto whom you project your sin and guilt, and from whom you hope to find love and wholeness. Failing to find love and wholeness from people in the world you made, you feel deprived, and attack them, seeking revenge. This is the illusory world of special love and hate relationships you made real to sustain your special separate existence.
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We seek love in the world because we have clouded our mind and forgotten the true source of love which is in our Identity with Christ.
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To the ego, love is vicious because when love is betrayed it strikes back demanding justice for the evil perpetrated against it. Total love of God is the total sacrifice of the ego's special love and is perceived by the ego as death; and this is the prototype of our relationships in the world. Rather than face death by accepting the unconditional love of God, the ego seeks special love from other people in the world the ego made.
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When we choose to believe we are bodies separate from the eternal love of God, we find ourselves incomplete and alone in a lonely world. So we seek to fill our emptiness with love from other people. When love is not given to us from others, we feel we are deprived victims, now justified in depriving and victimizing them.
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In our special love relationships, the special love partner serves to reflect back to us our face of purity and innocence, and enables us to keep our face of guilt and hate buried under the illusion of love; until we are betrayed!
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Love is only of God. Love is not in other people or the world. Love is Spirit. Love is in the Mind. Love is perfect oneness. We made the world so true love would be hidden because to find true love means the end of the special love of the ego, which is not love but guilt, fear and hate.
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When we identify with our littleness, we need allies to make us feel strong; we need lovers, religions, armies, and weapons to defend our littleness. Special love is conditional and limited to only a few. True love is unconditional and all inclusive. Special relationships (love and hate) are the weapons we use to defend our littleness against the magnitude of the truth of who we are as Christ.
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True love is all inclusive. If we value one member of the Sonship more than another we have attempted to divide love which cannot be divided, as it is one. The all-inclusive nature of love is known and extended in the mind (which is content); not through the body and the world (which is form). We cannot share love equally with all bodies in the world of time, space and form; but we can do so in the mind as we realize we are all one in the Mind of Christ. By offering all our special relationships to the Holy Spirit, He uses them to teach us of the love of God — which is our true Identity.
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All relationships of the ego are purely selfish. There is no love in relationships of the ego. There is no love between two people in the world. Love is of God only. Relationships between egos are born, live and die in guilt, fear and hate. There is no "I" or "you" in love. "I love you" is a lie. "I am afraid of you" is the truth.
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Until we are aware of the true source of perfect love which is God in Heaven, we will continue to seek for special love in this hell we made and call the world. Love that is freely given and shared is unknowable in the world you made.
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Even as we are waking up to the delusion and insanity of believing we are a separate ego in a body, we still cling tenaciously to our special love and hate relationships, believing that we are exceptions somehow, and our relationships are grounded in true love, and those we hate are truly evil.
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Your true creations are love. Love is in your identity with Love itself, and nowhere else. It is love we seek and Love that calls us Home.
From the PDF Book - Notes on the Text of ACIM Condensed Version by Stephen Wingate
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